It’s true that when you become a parent yourself, there will be realizations wherein you would only understand once you are at that phase in your life. Until then will you only understand the deeper meaning of the love of the parents? Regardless if you came from a bad parenting or a traumatic childhood experience, I believe, there are still some great facets of your parents that you would like to carry out as a parent yourself – ideally or maybe partially.
Being a father is not similar to being a mother. Sometimes if not oftentimes, these dissimilarities affect or contribute to the welfare of the children. God created fathers and mothers for a specific role and specific purpose in the different areas of child development. However, with the breaking of the norm in the past decades, these roles are impacting most of the millennial children and Gen Z children of today. These impacts are affecting the sociological, intellectual, and emotional views both in positive and negative ways.
With the ongoing debates in child psychology, more children have shifted to a more pronounce and lax upbringing. Gender roles and expression, conservative and strict disciplining, gender equality, privacy, personal choices, and politically motivated ideologies among college students are some of the issues that have long been circulating. However, this era unlike its predecessors has been more liberating and expressive, breaking the stereotypes while challenging these issues.
During The Covid 19 Crisis
Covid 19 pandemic have invaded not just the health sectors in the government and communities, but it invaded the livelihood and financial stability of each family, to the point of losing jobs and income, and soon bankruptcy. Who is most affected by this? Who are mostly the breadwinners of the families? The fathers, the foundation of the family. I know some of you might raise a brow, but I just want to be more general, we all know that most of us have had fathers.
This pandemic (aside from the previous pandemics like Spanish flu etc) is something I might assume as the most difficult time for millennial fathers. This is the most burdensome event in raising a family, in sustaining finances and needs for the family, more stressful than the combined recession and losing a job.
Dads In Different Clothing
I didn’t literally mean the clothes worn by our dads. These are the single moms (or parents, father figures) that are working hard by themselves and at the same time raising their children. Like the fathers, they too carry the weight on their shoulders on how to provide for their families needs during this crisis. With dads having difficulties in these trying times, what more are these moms who are working their asses off to meet everyday needs?
The Essence Of The Father’s Day
Despite all these challenges, we should be thankful that our families have no coronavirus and are thriving every day. I know how hard it is to remain positive while listening to all the bad news and saddening covid 19 updates in different countries. I know how hard it feels to avoid giving alms, instead of helping other people. I know how tough it is to look for financial aid or jobs that will get you through the day for the past 3 months or so. These are possible because of the dads and father figures who are working hard to live especially during this crisis. Those efforts can never be done unconditionally, but it became possible by our dads.
So today, as we celebrate Father’s Day, I would like to at least encourage you my dear readers to tap your dads, maybe on their shoulders or backs, and tell them how grateful you are for having a special and hard-working dad like them. Most dads might not reciprocate since men are biologically created to show fewer emotions or father figures don’t want to show their frailty but I am definitely sure it was highly appreciated.
Happy Father’s Day to all dads and father figures around the globe. Dads, you are appreciated, you are loved, you are doing great in providing your family’s needs. You are your children’s superhero, your wife’s shoulder to lean on and your daughter’s first guy best friend. Please remain strong, positive, and happy despite the challenges of the covid 19 crisis.